Meehoo Follow-up

In regards to the incident that resulted in that slight blemish on both my person and my psyche, I would like to thank all who commented on my post “Meehoo With an Exactlywatt“.

As y’all know, I normally reply to most comments made here. But in this case, this post was warranted.

It would seem that everyone who commented is in consensus with the Husbear about my actions. I’m still mentally processing everything that happened, and your comments have definitely helped me not to be so hard on myself.

Thank you all.

Baby steps for Erik.

Until next time...
Erik

One thought on “Meehoo Follow-up

  1. Erik, I didn’t have the chance to comment on the original post because I was too sick that night. My first reaction was “good for you” and I still think so. I am so proud of you. I also understand your conflict of having reacted with physical violence. You are an evolved man, if you weren’t you wouldn’t be questioning your reaction.

    Have I been in a similar situation? Yes. In 1996 in Arlington Va, I had just come out at 31.5, during my second time playing in the gay tennis league a frat type guy started yelling slurs at us. I was the only one to really understand what was happening and I was having none of it. It was daytime in a public park. I started talking to him telling him to shut up and go away but it quickly escalated. As it was about to become physical, his friend restrained him and my new friends restrained me. WE convinced him it was in his best interest to leave and the park police arrived.

    I didn’t reflect on my actions much except to enjoy my new friends’ support and pride. I did realize quickly the impact it had on me and the friendships I made in that league in and in the future – all positive. Years later when retelling the experience, I realized that it was really also a reaction to all the bullying I had endured growing up and that my STRENGTH not so much anger, came from a new man and not a scarred little boy.

    I suspect that you are going through similar questions but where as i had only myself to think of, you have a husband, family, business and so much more at this stage of your life that was also put at risk. Keep talking to the husbear, he’ll help you through your emotions and conflicts that are sure to ebb and flow.

    You may never know the outcome your actions had on him or the others who were witness but you will know how it affected you and that is what is most important.

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