Back on the “Not So Stylish” post, one of the things I listed was:
5. I still have wet dreams. Not for lack of sex.
Do you ever remember the dream you are having at the time of the emission?
“Yes” would be the short answer.
But I’m not really sure how to approach writing a post about that. I don’t want to just write about the specifics that occur in said dreams, many of which I do remember. That would seem sleazy of me.
So I guess I’ll approach the post as to the overall themes that re-occur in said dreams. The vast majority of the dreams involve oral sex in some fashion. I’m not really sure why the fixation on oral sex. But that’s what makes up most of the dreams “activities”.
And most usually involve people I know in real life—both gay and straight—who I won’t name here for fear of not being able to look them in the face again.
I’d blame an extremely hyper-overactive imagination, but if that were the case there should be more going on in these dreams than just that one activity.
I’ve always had this “issue” with nocturnal emissions for as long as I remember, both when I was single and since I’ve been partnered. While I am one who can generally go without sex for months at a time, the Husbear is the opposite and wants it several times a day if he could. So quantity of sex can be ruled out for the most part.
I have often wondered if it has something to do with the night terrors I used to have as a child, which have translated into the reoccurring nightmares I tend to have as well. I don’t wake up screaming like I used to, but I do tend to thrash and wake up frequently.
Maybe the dream outlet is the same, and the end result is just a different physical response.
I wonder if a small bladder is to blame? Which I seriously think has something to do with it. I’ve mentioned before that I used to wet the bed until late in my teens, and that I still have an occasional accident. One of the dream cues that signals that I need to wake up to pee is actually me giving myself oral sex in a dream. I have no idea why that is, but it is.
If only I were still that flexible.
I guess until I figure out what is at the root of these dreams, I’ll just keep on having them. Which isn’t a bad thing in my book.
That being said, aren’t you glad you’re not having to sleep next to me at night? 😉
Until next time...
I (used to) have recurring nightmares! I still have (wakeful, manually stimulated) nocturnal emissions! I can (could) give myself oral sex (in my, uh yeah, in my dreams)! Maybe we’re twins separated (by a few years) at birth! OMG, the brother I never had (yet…kidding, husbear!). 🙂
That made me LOL in all sorts of ways!
I still have wet dreams. My husband is jealous as he’s never had one. Oddly enough, mine always involve orgasming in my dream but the activities that get me there are not always typical-sex related, per se. (Although the ones that are always seem to involve oral sex or masturbation and never any kind of anal sex) I once had a dream that a guy I used to mess around with had me by the ankles and was spinning me around in a circle through the air. My pants came down and I orgasmed mid spin (which translated into waking up orgaming.)
The most COMMON wet dream that recurred when I was younger/closeted was being in a school gymnasium. The Cheerleaders were sitting in a row on the bleachers with their skirts on and, for some reason, I was compelled to perform oral sex on each of them (their legs spread so I had access to their underparts.) I remember not wanting to but having to (for some unknown reason). When I actually ducked my head under the skirts, their was a dick and balls and hairy legs…these were actually men and I remember thinking how awesome it was that I would get to do this and every person watching would think I was going down on women…win win. I never got farther than 3 before I woke up orgasming. Guess THAT’S a pretty obvious symbolism…
Anyhoo, so much for concentrating at work.
With all due respect to husbears (yours and mine) I’d be your beddy bye sleepy time cuddle buddy any day, come what may (no pun intended.)
Thank you for sharing! It would seem everyone definitely has different imagery in their dreams, and whether or not anything, er, comes from it.
And you mean as long as you don’t wake up with goo all over your back… 😉
I don’t think I ever had a wet dream. My Mom never made a fuss about it if I did (she washed most of the laundry until I was about 14). It’s strange since I tend to have very vivid dreams, to the point where I believe that I’m actually feeling some of the sensations occurring within them.
My dreams tend to be rather vivid as well. Sometimes to the point that I have to question whether a feeling actually occurred or not.
I think I *maybe* had one wet dream as a young teen. That’s it.
Personally, I think it has to do wit the whole sex camel thing. You can go for months without sex– but I think your body is secretly telling you that you need to get in the game more often.
I don’t think it’s that, for me at least. Since the Husbear and I have been together, I can rule out the sex camel thing. And I have actually had a wet dream after having sex!
I still have wet dreams. In fact, I have them more often now than I did during my teenage years. That’s not to say I have them often though. Once every couple of months, maybe?
Whenever I tell guys this, they romanticize them. Or, rather, sexualize them. And yes, the stimulation is sexual, but it’s not real. I certainly don’t consider myself “lucky” when I have one. In fact, I’m annoyed. Because I’ve woken up from a restful sleep to a puddle of sticky mess. So now I’ve got to do the clean-up without the fun.
You could always remember to just rub out another one after you’ve woken up… 😉
Great post Erik, and thanks for the follow-up. I learned a lot from this post and the other comments. It looks like the reason I don’t have wet dreams is because I don’t have sex dreams. I wonder why that is? Probably because all day long I think of nothing but sex and the only time my mind gets a break from it is when I sleep. Never know.
I’ve had wet dreams before that didn’t involve sex in the dream. And judging by some of the comments posted, others have had the same.
But I could see how your brain might need a chance to rest after thinking about sex all day. 😉