Friend Is A Four Letter Word

In light of the events of the last couple of weeks, I’ve been thinking about the concept of friendship. Not just the who and how and why of the friends and friendships I have, but also the friendships that no longer exist for one reason or another.

I ran across this quote at some point in the past and it’s stuck in my mind ever since:

It’s sad when people you know become people you knew.

When you can walk right past someone like they were never a big part of your life. How you used to be able to talk for hours and how now, you can barely even look at them.

I’m assuming we’ve all had friendships that just… stopped? It’s the weirdest thing to me. Especially when one continues to make an effort but that effort goes relatively ignored by the other.

I’ll leave it at that.

Until next time...
Erik

6 thoughts on “Friend Is A Four Letter Word

  1. Unfortunately, shit / life happens. It’s not easy nor fun. However, when friends fall apart (in most cases) it isn’t only one’s fault. What you can do is try to cherish the time / past and the good times you had. That old friendship helped you become the person you are now and gave you the experience on how to act on your next one…

    1. It’s that “isn’t only one’s fault” bit that I’m trying to figure out. I try to look back objectively to see what could have been done differently, and I don’t know that anything would have been different under other circumstances. C’est la vie.

  2. I never truly get over losing a friendship. It is infathomable to me that someone who once spent hots with me laughing and talking and hugged me hello and good by now would rather eat glass than even acknowledge me or show the slightest civility. And yet, i’ve a longer list of “used to knows” than I care to admit. Sigh….

  3. People are strange and most do seem to be wired with an on/off switch. It also seems that many are selfish and only care about pleasing themselves, so the minute they can’t get anymore out of you they disappear. I’ve adjusted to this type of situation years ago, and therefore I always keep it in the back of my mind that nothing is permanent and that this person i’m having fun with today could suddenly be gone tomorrow. Some may find that negative, jaded or morbid, but it’s better to be prepared than to invest too much into someone who’s going to suddenly disappear.

  4. I know for a fact that there wasn’t anything different to be done. Being ignored isn’t the best feeling in the world especially by someone you called a friend. I’m sorry that it happened. I hope you realize that it isn’t anything you could have done to prevent it.

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