gambrinous with griffonage

It's 2 AM here, and I finally got this post finished. Not that I've been working on it for long really. I was watching Doctor Who on the other monitor, and reading other blogs as well. But here it is.

In this previous post, I asked my lovely readers to ask me questions for each of six topics:

1. Friends (answered here)
2. Sex (answered here)
3. Music (answered here)
4. Religion (answered here)
5. Love (answered here)
6. Blogging

This post contains the answers for the questions that were asked under the last category, "Blogging".

I appreciate all of you who got my mind thinking for me. And those of you who didn't.

BLOGGING

What do you love about blogging?
What don't you like about blogging?

— Jim

I don't know if there's anything in particular I love about blogging. For me it's just been a way to express myself somewhat better, and a way to store my thoughts somewhere other than in a paper diary.

I don't know if it's really a "don't like", but blogging used to be a cathartic, somewhat anonymous outlet for me at one point in time. (If you can call it anonymous since I use my real name and all.) The cathartic posting has decreased over time, at least the ones that get published publicly.

Who is your favorite blogger in Dayton, Ohio?

— Cubby

You're from Ohio? I though you were from the Internet.

When are you going to stop teasing all of us and give a full frontal pic ?

— thomas

I don't know if I'd post a full frontal picture on my blog. And I don't know that me doing the full Monty will ever appear on this blog. Then again, I do drunk blog from time to time.

What's a subject you would never blog about?

— Richard

I don't know if there's a subject that I haven't blogged about. Yet.

Do you feel you express yourself better in written form?

— John

Very much so. But only when I'm emotionally wound up. However I do write better than I speak. I'm not the greatest conversationalist in the world.

Do you know the ASCII values for space-char, return and newline by heart? (well, it's a computer question and blogging is done on computers ...)

— Raybob

Not those, but I do have a few other ones memorized that I use on this blog from time to time. But thanks to technological advances, I use those less and less these days.

Do you have blogger crushes? Have you ever acted on them if you do, or would you?

— Will

There are a few bloggers that I initially started following because I found them both very attractive (to me) and expressive in written format.

And I suppose if the opportunity presented itself, all things are possible.

How has Blogging evolved/changed since you started blogging and do you think it is for the better or worse? Does blogging seem to lose any of its relevance now that it is being done by the masses or is it more relevant now that it seems everyone and their dog is doing it? Do you think there is a "blogging community" and do you feel any kind of connection to other bloggers that is based on the fact that you both blog? In other words, does discovering another person blogs hold any relevance to you or give you any sense of connection to them because of this commonality?

— Sean

How has Blogging evolved/changed since you started blogging and do you think it is for the better or worse?

I've seen a lot of bloggers who were active in the blogging community stop blogging once Facebook became popular. Which really saddens me because I thought they were great bloggers.

Does blogging seem to lose any of its relevance now that it is being done by the masses or is it more relevant now that it seems everyone and their dog is doing it?

I don't think that it's lost it's relevance. There are so many niches out there that one can find a plethora of blogging topics.

Do you think there is a "blogging community" and do you feel any kind of connection to other bloggers that is based on the fact that you both blog? In other words, does discovering another person blogs hold any relevance to you or give you any sense of connection to them because of this commonality?

I do think there is a blogging community, especially when you get a circle of bloggers who interact with one another. And a lot of those members usually have a common interest or two.

SUPER COMBO BONUS

Would you have sex with a friend while listening to music if he loved hating religion, knowing he would blog about it the next day?

— Sean

Would he be blogging about the hating of religion, the music selection, or about the sex?

In this previous post, I asked my lovely readers to ask me questions for each of six topics:

1. Friends (answered here)
2. Sex (answered here)
3. Music (answered here)
4. Religion (answered here)
5. Love
6. Blogging

This post contains the answers for the questions that were asked under the "Love" category. Which had a lot of questions asked, more than the "Sex" category (I think)!

LOVE

What food do you absolutely love?

— Dale Who

Hot dogs. The cheap ones that are like 88 cents a pack. On an untoasted bun. With regular mustard.

What is something that you love (have passion for)?

— Jim

Obviously there's the Husbear. And most technology that makes my life easier. I would say my art, but most of the time it's more client-driven than personal, so it's not really "my" art.

On love: How many great loves do you think a man deserves?

— Nik_TheGreek

Every person deserves a lifetime of them, be that one or a plethora of them.

Do you believe in love?

— Cubby

When I read your questions, a song by the Dixie Chicks went through my mind, so I'll go with this as the answer:

Do you feel that romantic love is for everyone or only a select few?

— Richard

I think it's possible for everyone. But I don't think that it's something every person necessarily wants.

Who has loved you the most?

— Urspo

My Husbear.

Do you have "one that got away?" and if so, have you since bought better handcuffs? (j/k)

— John

There was one individual who, in the time pre-Husbear, I would have liked to have had a deeper relationship with. But it didn't happen. And I didn't pursue it. And I'm entirely okay with that today.

Do you as a gay man think there are different kinds of love, and that you can love some or many others in different ways simultaneously?

— Will

I think—as a human—there are different kinds of love. One of the (many) things I fault about the English language is the lack of descriptive words for "love" like so many other languages have. Take Greek, for instance. There are at least five different words for love (four of them listed here) with each having a distinct meaning. Yes, we use other adjectives paired with the word in an attempt to describe love. But I think the word "love" itself is rather lacking.

That said, I think there are many different ways to love many different people at the same time.

Do you think you can successfully love more than one person at the same time?

— cb

Per the above answer, I think I can and do love several people at the same time, but in different ways of love.

But if you mean in the sense of agape love (as referenced in the link above), for me I think that's only possible for one person at a time.

Do you believe love is an act, decision, emotion or all three? What constitutes "true love" in your mind and do you think that people ever experience the same kind of love as others do or do you think love is an individual and unique experience for each of us, much like "no two snowflakes are the same." Piggy-backing on CB's question above, do you think "true love" can be had for more than one person at a time? If marriage were abolished and people were encouraged to experience and enjoy sex with others without shame or hesitancy as their natural urges dictated, do you think love would become obsolete or do you think people would still naturally pair up, some for life, even without the societal pressure, support and encouragement to do so?

— Sean

"Do you believe love is an act, decision, emotion or all three?"

I believe love can and does consist of all three. And I personally think love isn't love without having all three.

"What constitutes 'true love' in your mind..."

For me, "true love" is agape love (see above answer).

"...and do you think that people ever experience the same kind of love as others do or do you think love is an individual and unique experience for each of us, much like 'no two snowflakes are the same.'"

I think the concept of love is similar, but I think the actual experience is distinct for each individual.

"...do you think 'true love' can be had for more than one person at a time?"

I think it's possible, but I don't think it's possible for me.

"If marriage were abolished and people were encouraged to experience and enjoy sex with others without shame or hesitancy as their natural urges dictated, do you think love would become obsolete or do you think people would still naturally pair up, some for life, even without the societal pressure, support and encouragement to do so?"

I don't know that marriage should be abolished, but I do think divorce should be. I think that would stop people from marrying for the most part.

And I'm not sure if people would pair up or group up. But I think there would be some sort of groupings that would occur.

What stupid things have you done for love? These could be trivial things, or these could be humongous life-lessons.

— Raybob

I guess it really depends on the definition of "stupid". In the long ago I would have changed how I am for the love of another. That seems pretty humongous now that I look at it. I'm sure I've done lots of small little stupid things, but none of the come to mind. I've probably blocked those memories, or they didn't bother me enough that they've slipped into the far recesses of my mind.

In this previous post, I asked my lovely readers to ask me questions for each of six topics:

1. Friends (answered here)
2. Sex (answered here)
3. Music
4. Religion
5. Love
6. Blogging

This post contains the answers for the questions that were asked under the "Music" category.

MUSIC

If the B-52s were a food, what would it be and what would you do with it?

— Cubby

I'd say they would be the magical five loaves that Jebus fed to everyone. And I'd do the same.

That, or they'd be Twizzlers. Making mouths happy!

Why do you think people identify with/support/love the music/musicians they do so fervently, to the point of waiting in line 10 hours for tickets or hating people who do not share their love for the pop star du jour or make videos on you tube crying because people are picking on their favorite diva? (I'm not talking "I love this band and have all their albums and would love to see them in concert" kind of fandom; I'm talking "If you say a bad thing about Madonna I will stab you with this knife because I sold a kidney once to buy nose bleed tickets at a concert that raises money for a hospitality house that is next door to where a guy lived that once saw Madonna in an airport" kind of fandom.) Is there any music or musician that has earned such devotion from you ever and if so who?

— Sean

To me that type of obsession is really no different than stalking, which I think indicates some sort of mental imbalance (e.g., John Hinckley's obsession with Jodie Foster). And I've never been that crazy about any musician before. Yet.

What's the music you put on to calm you down when you're stressed or angry or upset?

— Dale Who

It really varies. If it's on my iDevice, it's pretty much fair game. So maybe music in general helps calm me down? To me it's more a volume thing. If I'm stressed/angry/upset, the volume of the music is definitely at a lower level than normal, almost like elevator muzak in the background.

If you could see any band live that you've never seen before, which would it be?

— Richard

Green Day. Or Def Leppard.

Do you have any special music that transports you to the Divine?

— Urspo

I don't know if I have any actual particular music that does that for me, but there are certain instruments, sounds, melodies, tempos, and chords that do take me somewhere else. And these appear in any number of genre of music for me.

What single genre of music would most represent who you are? (Not necessarily your favorite)

— John

I don't know if there's one single genre that represents me. I'm pretty much "the entire music store" kind of guy.

In this previous post, I asked my lovely readers to ask me questions for each of six topics:

1. Friends (answered here)
2. Sex
3. Music
4. Religion
5. Love
6. Blogging

This post contains the answers for the questions that were asked under the "Sex" category. Which seems to be the category most of you seem most interested in for some reason.... I wonder why that is?

There were a few combo questions that were asked as well.

FRIENDS and SEX

Do you and/or Hubby have sex with friends? Do you think it is possible to have sex with friends without ruining the friendship?

We both have before, but not often. And I think it's possible, depending on the friend and their maturity level and attitudes about sex.

Do you believe sex between friends is a bad idea? Is it possible for two people to have a sexual experience together without it completely disrupting their friendship and ability to function "normally" afterwards as they might have before? If not, why do you think sex is the one thing two people can't do together without it becoming a "thing" that must change the nature of their relationship and/or ability to be friends? Is that a natural occurrence or is it because of how we have been raised and socialized to believe sex is something that should only occur within the parameters of societal acceptability and endorsed relationships?

I personally don't think it's a bad idea, but I can only speak for myself. And I personally think it's possible depending on the friend and their maturity level and attitudes about sex. But I don't think it's possible for all friendships, or all people. For some people, sex is just sex. Other people get all... emotional.

And I think my above statement is based on my belief that attitudes of sex are learned (like many things). We are taught by our families, who are taught by society and religion. Sometimes we never get passed what we're taught, and other times we go off the deep end.

SEX

What was your sluttiest, sleaziest, (yet fun) sexual experience?

I knew the answer to that until you said "yet fun". So I'll have to think of a different story.

I guess I'll go with this one, as it's the second one that popped into my head.

I used to have a job at a gas station, working third shift. Which consisted of me cleaning during long stretches of no one coming in to the store. One night, some tall, hot guy came in and asked where the restroom was. I pointed him in the direction, and as he closed the door, he gave me "the look". Normally, I don't pick up when someone is flirting with me or hitting on me. But for whatever random reason, I did this time. So I wandered over and into the restroom.

And stuff happened.

When was the last time you shot over your head?

Just a few days ago, actually. That tends to be a common "event" for me. Shield your eyes when I'm around.

Sex, you've spoken of you lack of desire. Do you find sex with strangers (like when you were in New Orleans) "easier"? When you are on vacation do you play together with hook ups? You and the Husbear are smokin' hot. So one would figure that you both get naked on a regular basis...when you are not in the mood what does the Husbear do with his sexual energy.

I don't know that I find sex with strangers any more easier than sex with people who aren't. But I actually feel more pressure to have sex when I'm at events of the New Orleans nature (because that's typically what goes on at events like that) so I definitely wouldn't say it's any easier in those circumstances.

The Husbear and I rarely play together, at least in this point in our relationship. We both have different tastes and interests when it comes to men.

The Husbear has plenty of channels for his sexual energy. More channels than are available on cable TV!

And thank you for the compliment.

Would you let someone kiss you after they rimmed you?

To quote a line from one of my favorite movies, Clerks II: "Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, it's forgivable to go ass to mouth."

Have you ever had sex with a blogger buddy?

Yes I have, but I shan't name blogs.

In one word, what was the first time with a guy like?

Illuminating.

Do you have spontaneous orgasms when you're on the bottom?

I don't know about your definition of the word "spontaneous", but I do have a tendency to "pop" without having to be touched. On the outside. If that's what you mean.

SEX and MUSIC

What music do you listen while having sex?

I usually don't listen to music when I'm having sex, aside from the a capella soundtrack being created consisting of rhythmic heavy breathing and moaning.