It’s 2 AM here, and I finally got this post finished. Not that I’ve been working on it for long really. I was watching Doctor Who on the other monitor, and reading other blogs as well. But here it is.

In this previous post, I asked my lovely readers to ask me questions for each of six topics:

1. Friends (answered here)
2. Sex (answered here)
3. Music (answered here)
4. Religion (answered here)
5. Love (answered here)
6. Blogging

This post contains the answers for the questions that were asked under the last category, “Blogging”.

I appreciate all of you who got my mind thinking for me. And those of you who didn’t. 😉

BLOGGING

What do you love about blogging?
What don’t you like about blogging?

— Jim

I don’t know if there’s anything in particular I love about blogging. For me it’s just been a way to express myself somewhat better, and a way to store my thoughts somewhere other than in a paper diary.

I don’t know if it’s really a “don’t like”, but blogging used to be a cathartic, somewhat anonymous outlet for me at one point in time. (If you can call it anonymous since I use my real name and all.) The cathartic posting has decreased over time, at least the ones that get published publicly.

Who is your favorite blogger in Dayton, Ohio?

— Cubby

You’re from Ohio? I though you were from the Internet. 😉

When are you going to stop teasing all of us and give a full frontal pic ?

— thomas

I don’t know if I’d post a full frontal picture on my blog. And I don’t know that me doing the full Monty will ever appear on this blog. Then again, I do drunk blog from time to time.

What’s a subject you would never blog about?

— Richard

I don’t know if there’s a subject that I haven’t blogged about. Yet.

Do you feel you express yourself better in written form?

— John

Very much so. But only when I’m emotionally wound up. However I do write better than I speak. I’m not the greatest conversationalist in the world.

Do you know the ASCII values for space-char, return and newline by heart? 🙂 (well, it’s a computer question and blogging is done on computers …)

— Raybob

Not those, but I do have a few other ones memorized that I use on this blog from time to time. But thanks to technological advances, I use those less and less these days. 😉

Do you have blogger crushes? Have you ever acted on them if you do, or would you?

— Will

There are a few bloggers that I initially started following because I found them both very attractive (to me) and expressive in written format.

And I suppose if the opportunity presented itself, all things are possible.

How has Blogging evolved/changed since you started blogging and do you think it is for the better or worse? Does blogging seem to lose any of its relevance now that it is being done by the masses or is it more relevant now that it seems everyone and their dog is doing it? Do you think there is a “blogging community” and do you feel any kind of connection to other bloggers that is based on the fact that you both blog? In other words, does discovering another person blogs hold any relevance to you or give you any sense of connection to them because of this commonality?

— Sean

How has Blogging evolved/changed since you started blogging and do you think it is for the better or worse?

I’ve seen a lot of bloggers who were active in the blogging community stop blogging once Facebook became popular. Which really saddens me because I thought they were great bloggers.

Does blogging seem to lose any of its relevance now that it is being done by the masses or is it more relevant now that it seems everyone and their dog is doing it?

I don’t think that it’s lost it’s relevance. There are so many niches out there that one can find a plethora of blogging topics.

Do you think there is a “blogging community” and do you feel any kind of connection to other bloggers that is based on the fact that you both blog? In other words, does discovering another person blogs hold any relevance to you or give you any sense of connection to them because of this commonality?

I do think there is a blogging community, especially when you get a circle of bloggers who interact with one another. And a lot of those members usually have a common interest or two.

SUPER COMBO BONUS

Would you have sex with a friend while listening to music if he loved hating religion, knowing he would blog about it the next day?

— Sean

Would he be blogging about the hating of religion, the music selection, or about the sex? 😉

In this previous post, I asked my lovely readers to ask me questions for each of six topics:

1. Friends (answered here)
2. Sex (answered here)
3. Music (answered here)
4. Religion (answered here)
5. Love
6. Blogging

This post contains the answers for the questions that were asked under the “Love” category. Which had a lot of questions asked, more than the “Sex” category (I think)!

LOVE

What food do you absolutely love?

— Dale Who

Hot dogs. The cheap ones that are like 88 cents a pack. On an untoasted bun. With regular mustard.

What is something that you love (have passion for)?

— Jim

Obviously there’s the Husbear. And most technology that makes my life easier. I would say my art, but most of the time it’s more client-driven than personal, so it’s not really “my” art.

On love: How many great loves do you think a man deserves?

— Nik_TheGreek

Every person deserves a lifetime of them, be that one or a plethora of them.

Do you believe in love?

— Cubby

When I read your questions, a song by the Dixie Chicks went through my mind, so I’ll go with this as the answer:

Do you feel that romantic love is for everyone or only a select few?

— Richard

I think it’s possible for everyone. But I don’t think that it’s something every person necessarily wants.

Who has loved you the most?

— Urspo

My Husbear.

Do you have “one that got away?” and if so, have you since bought better handcuffs? (j/k)

— John

There was one individual who, in the time pre-Husbear, I would have liked to have had a deeper relationship with. But it didn’t happen. And I didn’t pursue it. And I’m entirely okay with that today.

Do you as a gay man think there are different kinds of love, and that you can love some or many others in different ways simultaneously?

— Will

I think—as a human—there are different kinds of love. One of the (many) things I fault about the English language is the lack of descriptive words for “love” like so many other languages have. Take Greek, for instance. There are at least five different words for love (four of them listed here) with each having a distinct meaning. Yes, we use other adjectives paired with the word in an attempt to describe love. But I think the word “love” itself is rather lacking.

That said, I think there are many different ways to love many different people at the same time.

Do you think you can successfully love more than one person at the same time?

— cb

Per the above answer, I think I can and do love several people at the same time, but in different ways of love.

But if you mean in the sense of agape love (as referenced in the link above), for me I think that’s only possible for one person at a time.

Do you believe love is an act, decision, emotion or all three? What constitutes “true love” in your mind and do you think that people ever experience the same kind of love as others do or do you think love is an individual and unique experience for each of us, much like “no two snowflakes are the same.” Piggy-backing on CB’s question above, do you think “true love” can be had for more than one person at a time? If marriage were abolished and people were encouraged to experience and enjoy sex with others without shame or hesitancy as their natural urges dictated, do you think love would become obsolete or do you think people would still naturally pair up, some for life, even without the societal pressure, support and encouragement to do so?

— Sean

“Do you believe love is an act, decision, emotion or all three?”

I believe love can and does consist of all three. And I personally think love isn’t love without having all three.

“What constitutes ‘true love’ in your mind…”

For me, “true love” is agape love (see above answer).

“…and do you think that people ever experience the same kind of love as others do or do you think love is an individual and unique experience for each of us, much like ‘no two snowflakes are the same.'”

I think the concept of love is similar, but I think the actual experience is distinct for each individual.

“…do you think ‘true love’ can be had for more than one person at a time?”

I think it’s possible, but I don’t think it’s possible for me.

“If marriage were abolished and people were encouraged to experience and enjoy sex with others without shame or hesitancy as their natural urges dictated, do you think love would become obsolete or do you think people would still naturally pair up, some for life, even without the societal pressure, support and encouragement to do so?”

I don’t know that marriage should be abolished, but I do think divorce should be. I think that would stop people from marrying for the most part.

And I’m not sure if people would pair up or group up. But I think there would be some sort of groupings that would occur.

What stupid things have you done for love? These could be trivial things, or these could be humongous life-lessons.

— Raybob

I guess it really depends on the definition of “stupid”. In the long ago I would have changed how I am for the love of another. That seems pretty humongous now that I look at it. I’m sure I’ve done lots of small little stupid things, but none of the come to mind. I’ve probably blocked those memories, or they didn’t bother me enough that they’ve slipped into the far recesses of my mind.